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Welcome to the Seventh Edition of "Creative Living."

Tuesday, May 6, 2003

In this issue we have:

 1.) Article:  When Your Business Makes Your Spouse Unhappy
 2.) Hot Craft Tip:
 3.) Recipe:
 4.) On Parenting: -
 5.) Home Tool Tips:
 6.) Car Tool Tips
 7.) Tasteful Joke
 8.) Reader's Questions:
 9.) Editor's Word Pick
10.) Last Minute Reminders
11.) Inspirational Quote

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When Your Business Makes Your Spouse UnHappy

This article is unfairly geared more toward women then
men.. though there will be men who need to know how to
manage their time and the problems when the spouse feels
neglected. Because women and men are not the same
and they do have different needs.

As an online entrepreneur I meet many people from all
walks of life.  The most common problems are:

* My Spouse is Unhappy

* My Family Doesn't Understand

And for women...

* My Husband wants me to Quit!

So, let's dig into these problems and how to handle them.

To begin with, in a relationship, it takes compromise.
It takes understanding that though you are a pair and have
common goals, you are also individuals with different
desires that do not always make your partner happy.

This does not mean, by any sense of the words that I want
you to "walk on eggs" around your spouse. It does mean
that you have to make time for your loved ones. Not because
that you are afraid of standing up for your rights as an
individual, but because you love them.

Being on the net trying to start a business is your goal
and your dream, unfortunately, if you are working a full
time job, walk in the door, give your spouse a perfunctory
kiss, and turn the computer on... Someone, is going to have
hurt feelings.

The computer can wait, the email won't walk off and disappear.
People on the net know that you are not on the computer
24/7. They expect to wait for an answer. So calm that
anxiety about checking your mail. 

Your family can't wait, so make time for them. Get them on
a schedule. It sounds strange, however it works. 
Family dinners are getting lost all over the world.
This is the time when people should be talking, asking
about each other's day and finding out how the kids are
doing at school and sharing. Make that time.

Your spouse and each child needs about 1/2 hour of quality
time with you. Dinner is generally a ten minute eating session,
stretch it out a little bit. MEN, this is a great time to
help your wife clear the table, and for you two to talk a
bit more. 

After the dishes are cleared, and you have thanked her for
a wonderful meal, then turn your computer on... set a timer
for one hour; stop what you are doing and ask her if she
needs anything. When that is done, sit back at your
computer and set the timer again.

Women, many of you are at home moms. You have a job, it
is a 24 hour job at that.  However, when you learn how
to streamline your housework and schedule your time to
fit in with your husband's time frame, you can easily
become a success on the net, and still have a happy
husband. 

If you are a working mother, then my utmost
respect to you, as I know how hard this is for you.
You are juggling a tremendous amount of work.
Let your spouse know that your goal is to work at home
so that in the long run you will have more time to spend
with the family, apply what can fit, to your needs in
the following part of this article.

Wait until he goes to work to turn your computer on.
Have dinner on the table when he comes home, and spend
time with him. As soon as he hits that TV... you turn
your computer on.  Set a timer, for an hour, and check on
him.

On the family and their complaints.. if it is relatives,
give them a schedule when they can call and visit. Tell
them you are working such and such hours like any other
job. And, put your foot down!

On children, make sure they are getting the attention
they deserve. They do not need attention all the time,
and they can learn that mommy has a schedule when they
should learn to play quietly or do their homework. Kids
are smart and can easily be slipped into a schedule.
Consistency always works.

A hint for men: Women like to tell you their problems
about their day. Let them talk about it. As a man, you
tend to want to fix things for them. Generally, women
don't need their day fixed, they just need a kind ear.
And, while you are listening, do not look with longing
towards your computer.

A hint for women: Men like to keep their problems on
the average locked inside. They like to work their own
problems out. However, when they ask for help, be there
for them. They are also creatures of habit and
seldom like change. They like having their meals at the
same time, and to know that chair is waiting for
them in the same place it was yesterday.

Many men do not like the idea that their woman wants to
work...They hear it as: "You are a failure, you don't
make enough money." Tell them this is a personal goal
of your own; that it is important to you that you have
some successes in your own life; that being a housewife
is wonderful, however it is not enough to fulfill your
needs. Most men can understand that.  Just don't neglect
them in your quest for success.

And, most importantly, sit down with your family and tell
them what you are doing and what your dreams are and the
sacrifices that you are making so those dreams can come
true. Then ask them to have faith in you and to help
you reach those dreams.

To keep out of arguments, avoid words like "You always,"
and "You Never".... this will key in an argument faster
than you can say Christopher Robinson.

To your improvement with your loved ones!

Teresa King
(c)
P.S. This is a general article. Of course, there are
people who don't fit into a lumped category.  So,
use what you can.
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Teresa King's latest book is
Your Attitude-Your Self-Esteem
http://www.tipsfortop.com/attitude.html
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Craft Tip:

Frayed Fabric Edge: Clear nail polish daubed on any
frayed edge of fabric will keep it from raveling further.

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Recipe:
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Clam Dip

*I don't even like clams*
But, I love this dip.

1- 6 oz can of drained clam pieces
1- 8 oz cream cheese (softened)
Mix it together, then mix in

Cocktail sauce to taste.

( I don't know how much to tell
you, but you can start with a couple
of Tablespoons)  Don't eat it all on
your testing, save some to

Put it on Ritz Crackers.... :)
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Using plastic with tomatoes? 
You can spray lightly with something like
PAM (spray oil can with less than
7 calories) It will keep the container from
staining.

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Weight Loss Tip:
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You can burn off 100 calories at 150
pounds for walking one mile.  You can
also increase your metabolism by moving
the body more often.

If you have not looked into a low carbo diet,
you may find it will work beautifully for you.
Sometimes, I wonder why isn't there a pill
that stops weight gain? They have pills
for so many other things now days.
Anyway, you find this site interesting
THE BIG FAT LIE:
http://www.lammd.com/A3R_brief_in_doc_format/A_Big_Fat_Lie.cfm#intro

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Safety Tip:

If you have an ear infection, your equilibrium
may be off. Be careful when driving and doing
any fast movements. You may hurt yourself.
Don't mess around with ear infections, see
a doctor.
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Parent Tip:
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Did you know that it was my son, when he was six,
that taught me how to open a waxed paper bag
that had Cheerios in it?

He took his little hands and pulled one side and the
other side of the bag, and it opened right up.
Works for crackers, cereals, potato chips and
everything.  (If you have been using your teeth
to do this, you now have a new way of doing
things)

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Household Tip:
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If you don't have any putty and you have a nail
hole in the wall. White toothpaste works!

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If you decide to paint in a small space, be sure
to get a window open. (And, don't paint yourself
in)

Clean Crayon off Walls:  Use a damp cloth dipped in
baking soda.  Comes off with very little effort.

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Car Tip - Prepare for any Trips

http://cartalk.cars.com/About/Summer-Driving-Tips/intro.html


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Tasteful Joke
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I saw Cher the other night. She was doing a
large almost like a farewell to Cher Show.
Or was it one? I didn't get to see what it was
all about.

She sure looks good.

Anyway, she was changing costumes, and
comes out as a blond and says:

"The funny thing about being a blond is people
give you directions slower."


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Editor's Word Tip on Commonly Misspelled Words
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neighbor  or neighbour depending on what part of the world
you are in

definite (I believe this is one of the most common words that
I see misspelled)

campaign
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If you have a question that pertains to this
newsletter, please hit reply and send it in.
If you have some advice in any category to offer,
please hit reply and send it in. If you have any hot
craft tips or an article, we are interested
in those too!  And recipes, and anything else you
would like to share.

Inspirational Quote:

"Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and
I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you.
Encourage me, and I may not forget you."

William Arthur

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At this point, I am not sure if you are interested in marketing
on the net, or just having fun.  Just in case you are interested
in marketing, you can check out this CD that is being sold
for $4.95. No shipping and is of incredible value.
In fact, it doesn't hurt to know what marketers do to get you
to purchase.

 It's called Hypnotic BluePrint, and I have
ordered mine. http://www.hypnoticblueprint.com/9436
Learning things like this is great for any kind of marketing
be it eBay, a Garage Sale, Nickel Ads, or Even a
Newspaper Ad, and I can tell you that the price is a
steal and it is 100 percent guaranteed.

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Thank you for being my reader!

Teresa King

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